

Pick one of the top 50 or 100 ones at random, just avoid lemmy.world and lemmy.ml, they are larger than they should be.
I am currently using discuss.tchncs.de, you can try it out.
Lemmy’s introduction website is good at this btw:
https://join-lemmy.org/instances?topic=all_topics&language=en&scroll=true
…which has been happening for a few months now. 90% of the newcomers join LW, either because someone recommends it to them or because they just don’t care about decentralization or don’t understand federation.
LW should actually close their registrations down for a while, but I guess they just don’t want to (iirc the admins acted pretty ignorant). It is very concerning that most active communities are in LW or Lemmy.ml.