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  • Couples can do different things at the same time. It doesn’t mean the relationship is over, on the contrary it means you’re both comfortable with the other being independent. If you both like Chinese and Mexican, have Chinese this time and Mexican next. Or as you say, order from two different places. If you always have Mexican then she’s getting her way all the time which isn’t meeting halfway.

    Women do seem to like showing of their husbands. So you’ll need to go places with her sometimes, providing that you also get some restful weekends at home where she is either present or off with her girlfriends somewhere. If you don’t ever want to do stuff with her then she’s right to be concerned: why did you get together if you don’t actually want to be together?

    Where to draw the line: I’d suggest keeping count. If you compromise all the time and she never does, then that would suggest something of a lopsided relationship. But as others have said, you don’t want to count everything otherwise you’ll be the asshole.








  • letsgo@lemm.eetoPrivacy@lemmy.mlLooking for email providers.
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    9 months ago

    Posteo was the winner when I last looked over the alternatives, although I haven’t switched yet. Tuta, mailbox.org and Runbox were runners up.

    Various reasons (mostly price, provider getting blocked too much, and being in the USA) led to a hard “no” for CounterMail, Soverin, Mailfence, StartMail, Fastmail, Proton, RiseUp, Hushmail, Skiff and Mail.com.

    It’s likely you don’t need a VPN. You’re putting a lot of trust in that company; make sure it’s well founded. I just use my ISP for normal stuff, then when I want to surf under the radar for one reason or another I open up Tor.



  • how does housing come into being?

    Well one “simple” way is for all the builders to be rolled up into the civil service: the government pays them to do their job, i.e. build houses, which the government then owns and allows people to live in. This must necessarily be rent-free, otherwise the government becomes one massive landlord therefore not solving the problem, and also takes the bottom out of the mortgage market because why would anyone buy when they can just move into government-provided housing without a 25-year millstone tied round their necks. It also creates a ton of job security because it means you can just walk away from a shitty employer without fear of becoming homeless.

    It also drops anyone with a mortgage into the worst possible negative equity problem, which will be a massive problem for a massive number of people, therefore has zero chance of ever being voted in. So for this to work there has to be a solution to the mortgage problem, e.g. the government buys all that housing stock for the current outstanding mortgage amount, but that’s a massive investment into something that now necessarily has zero value, which would likely crash the economy. IANAE so it’d be interesting to get a real economist’s view on how this might all work in practice.







  • If it were that simple then I’d be right there with you calling for exact same thing.

    But think about it for a minute. We already know Orban’s tongue is firmly embedded in Putin’s arse. Where exactly do you think he’ll go? I doubt it would be good for the EU to have a Russian forward base that far west.

    Anyway the people voted Orban in, and they can vote him out too. What they didn’t vote for was an exit from the EU, they’re not that dumb.