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Cake day: November 8th, 2024

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  • My aunt is getting older, and although she’s been a caretaker her whole life she’s now in a position of beneficiary rather than benefactor. It’s been hard for her. She’s often frustrated or antagonistic. She rents a room from me and sometimes uses her access to be invasive, such as reading through others’ mail or trash contents.

    In my childhood I would have fought her. My first thought is “How dare you” but with a little work I understand where her behavior comes from: she’s trying to get some power back. It’s painful for her to be powerless in old age.

    Forgiving her and giving her the same grace I give others has been a challenge. I’m glad I have this now