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Cake day: September 27th, 2025

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  • intrusive thoughts are about fears and the things we least want to happen, not from any instincts or hidden/suppressed desires that we have. that’s why they’re so upsetting and sometimes end up getting worse when trying to avoid them, because it ends up fuelling that fear.

    sometimes intrusive thoughts are caused by the smallest things, too! i once had a minor accident with a knife, and then couldn’t be around knives for years without having intrusive thoughts about stabbing myself, for example. there’s no ancient instinct telling me to stab myself, nor did i have some secret suppressed desire to stab myself, it was just my brain processing fear badly and coming up with nightmare scenarios as a way of saying “don’t do this, this would be bad”.

    tl;dr: you’re not a bad person if you have intrusive thoughts, no matter what they are. they’re just examples of what you don’t want to happen.



  • for myself, if i can recover passwords etc, i delete the account to lower the possibility of that data being used to train ai, and to lower the numbers of registered accounts they have.

    i think stakeholders are more likely to see accounts being deleted as worse than an inactive account, because people can always come back to an inactive account.

    so many websites are eager to keep users by making it difficult to delete accounts, or by adding a 14 day wait before they’ll delete an account, etc., so that alone makes me think they want even inactive accounts for usage statistics or to steal data from.